Which Firefly?

There are billions of men and women in the world. When you turn on the TV, go online, read a magazine or even go to mall you see dozens of attractive people that catch your eye whom momentarily have you in a daze. Attraction is a normal thing, even when you are with someone, you may still be attracted to others. Do not lie and say that you have eyes only for your man or your woman. If Beyonce came on TV many guys would argue that she is his future wife and the same goes for girls with Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. It is a part of life as a human being. But a problem falls into play when that attraction you have for another, forms into actual feelings.

There are plenty of individuals who have been placed in the predicament that requires them to choose between two or more individuals. They become emotionally and physically attracted to two or more people and now you have to decide who you are going to give your all too.  Which one do you chose? Who is the right choice? Who would make me happy? No one can give you the answer to these questions besides you. You can ask you friends and family for advice, but at the end of the day there will only be one who can determine who you give your all to and that person is you. Deciding can be very difficult, especially if all parties involved share the same characteristic that makes you attractive to them. They both make you laugh; they both are respectful of who you are and what you represent. No one said that it would be easy. You just have to step back and look at the situation and think to yourself. If you are at the age where you are in the beginning stages of finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with then ask yourself questions such as, could they be the one I cry to when I fall, twenty years from now, could I actually imagine them not being in my life, can I trust them, could they be the parent to our kids that they need to be?  The list goes on. If you are just looking for a relationship right then and there then more suitable questions for you would be, are they worth my spare time, is there real emotion here or is it just physical? Again the list continues. You have to find your other half no else can do it for you.

Do not choose one simply believing that the others will be there in case this one does not work out. Many people do not wait forever for one person. They move on.

There is also the possibility that none of your options in front of you are the correct choice. Again you need to step back from the situation and look at the situation with a clear mind. If in the end either option can bring you down versus lifting you up then you need to let all parties involved go and start anew. Do not settle because you are afraid that you may never find someone else willing to deal with you. There are billions of people in the world who you could possibly be attracted to, and billions more who would be attracted to you. Where are they? They are everywhere; just stop looking and you’ll soon find them. It is like a fire fly in the night. The moment you see one you do everything in your power to catch it but once you start to focus on the one he begins to disappear and then you’ll be roaming around trying to find it. And all they while you are looking for that one, you fail to realize the dozen that are shinning right behind you. Pause, close your eyes, breath and wait. You one will come. You are royalty and deserve nothing less than silver and gold.

Below are a few tips that could help you in reaching a decision.

Reasons not to choose someone:

–          Because of money/ material things

–          Because they are the “cutest”

–          Because they have the best physical features

–          Because you like their family

–          You repeatedly argue

–          Lack of trust

–          Because you share the same interest (a good friend may not make the best partner but this could be a positive of negative thing)

–          Because your family likes them

–          Because your friends/family say they are the best choice ( do not completely ignore their input)

Do not just keep them all hanging on because you like the attention

Reasons to choose someone:

–          Have ambitions

–          You smile just by thinking about them

–          You feel secure in their arms

–          Can talk about anything

–          Make each other laugh

–          Cares for others, especially you

–          Respectful

–          Responsible

 

Tabia Wade, Editor of Love and Relationships

Why Do MEN LIE?

Question: Why Do Men Lie?   (asked by Shaniqua Eason)

Women!!!  How many times have you asked yourself this question? How many times have you and your girlfriends pondered on this very subject? In this day and age it’s quite often, right? Well here are some very honest, straightforward  accounts surveyed from various discussions with your male counterparts.

1. We really don’t want the extra drama or theatrics.
Honestly, some of us don’t want to hear the fussing, fighting, and griping over something, whether it be us not doing what you told us to do in the first place, or even something as big as infidelity.

2. We see no positive outcome.
NO MAN wants to subjectively and voluntarily put himself through hell, when he believes it can be avoided with a little white lie. In our heads it’s called “Common Sense” at least until we get caught in the lie.

3. We really don’t want to hurt you
Almost any “Real Man” never wants to see his woman in tears, have her distance herself away from him, or have her mad at him for the matter. As a dude we know women can be very emotional creatures and feel that we have to be delicate of everything we say to make sure  it doesn’t set you off the deep end.

4. To leave a good impression
Though it sounds really petty, dudes really want to make themselves more than what they are by embellishing on some facts of their life to make them seem more attractive in your eyes.

We read all entries and questions and will make sure your questions will be answered. Send all entries to: humanlogic101@gmail.com

Work Hard, Play Harder

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Are you the typical broke college student? Do you call mom and dad every other weekend for extra cash? Are work-study and internships not enough? It’s no fun being in college with no cash. There are countless ways to get, save, and earn money while in college, these are called side hustles. Whether you’re looking to earn some extra cash, balance between book and grocery funds, or just save for nights out on the town a side hustle can be very convenient. Here are a few side hustles that can easily be done while in school:

  1. The Old-Fashioned Way: Use the outlets around you. The quickest and most familiar job is to become a babysitter, dog sitter or house sitter, it may seem outdated but many people still need them. It’s better and also safer to stay within the range of friends, family, professors, or employers; every now and then I’m sure someone will need your labor. As a student it’s a great job, you can study, eat, and watch television all in one setting while getting paid for it.
  2. Use your Brain: Are you good in a particular subject? Did you take a difficult class and pass? Many students are willing to pay for tutors that guarantee them knowledge and understanding. Most universities have tutors already but by advertising and demonstrating how well you did in a particular subject puts you above the rest. A local tutoring agency for school-aged children is also a good outlet. It gives you an opportunity to work with children while making $10 an hour or more.
  3. For Sale: A new trend is the selling of Virgin Hair Extensions. Many companies sell their supplies in bulk for a cheap price. Buying then reselling the hair to willing consumers is an excellent side hustle. You’re giving consumers what’s hot on the market and what they really want. You can also sell old books in the beginning of the semester, there is always a need for them and bookstore prices are out of this world.
  4. Donate a Pint: Donating plasma is the quickest way to earn money. If you’re in good health donating a pint of blood can get you up to $30. Before donating drink plenty of fluids and eat. Don’t take on any strenuous tasks throughout the remainder of the day. “Donate, get paid, and relax.”
  5. Use your Talents: One of my personal favorite side hustles is doing hair, make-up, and styling. Being in college you have to find a new stylist if you’re not near home. Many women like to keep it simple and get braids, two-strand twists, hair sewn-in or a relaxer. Men also like to keep a nice shave, clean braids, and neat dreads. Of course it’s illegal to do hair unlicensed, so I’m not telling you to do anything illegal, but if you have the talent use it *wink, wink*.

These are just a few examples of familiar side hustles. There are many more that you can use. It’s no fun being a broke college student so why not explore different possibilities. Just be aware there are scam artist out there who understand your struggle and will use it to their advantage. No more phone calls home, “Work hard, Play harder!”

Rina E., Author

Lipstick vs. Lip Gloss

Some people would think lipstick and lip gloss are the same. They both go on your lips, they both come in an assortment of colors, and they both get the job done when dealing with make-up. But is there a time to wear lipstick and a time to wear lip gloss? Or is one better than the other. Well let’s investigate that.

 

 

glossArgument for Lip Gloss

1. They are healthier for your lips: Most lips gloss have ingredients that also help your lips by moisturizing them.

2. They don’t stain your teeth like lipstick: Now we as women know that awkward moment when you smile and the lipstick gets on your teeth. EWWWW.

 

 

 

lipsticksArgument for Lipstick

1. Lipstick is more sophisticated: Lip gloss is for little girls, it’s time to be a woman now.

2. Lipstick usually lasts longer: With lip gloss you have to keep reapplying, apply once and done!

 

 

 

picture source: http://www.npr.org/blogs/health/2012/02/15/146917390/consumer-groups-want-lead-out-of-lipstick

The Top Healthy Snacks in Your Local Supermarket

Snacking has earned a bad reputation thanks to snacks such as candy, chips and soda that are composed of empty calories and aren’t very good for you.  These snacks only provide temporary satisfaction and only leave you feeling drained and tired (and most likely craving more sweets).  Grocery stores have all kinds of snacks claiming to be healthy, but which ones are tasty and at least not unhealthy?  There are no perfect snacks but good healthy snacks have enough calories to satisfy without the overkill.   They have less fat and contain whole grain, fiber, protein and other nutrients that will sustain your appetite.  Here are some of my personal favorites:

Fiber One Bars: They come in various flavors and are correctly proportioned.  Each pastry only has 190 calories and is low in fat and sodium.  Careful not to eat more than one, you will be tempted!

100% Whole Grain Fig Newtons:  Fig Newtons have always been one of my favorite snacks, now they come in whole grain.  The all natural fruit flavor gives you that satisfying sweet taste you crave and the whole grain will carry you over until dinner.

Popsicles (100% Fruit Juice):  There are many brands of fruit popsicles but you can’t go wrong with choosing ones that are made from 100% fruit juice.  You’ll get satisfying taste and no empty calories.

Quaker Instant Oatmeal Weight Control Cinnamon:  Oatmeal may not be your preference but you may want to learn to like it.  This oatmeal only has 160 calories and is low in fat while high in protein.  It’s a great way to start your morning or carry you over into lunch.

Fruit: This is probably a no brainer, but you can never go wrong with fruit.  Fruit is loaded with many different nutrients that are beneficial to you in different ways.  Fruit also satisfies the craving for a sweet taste, without weighing you down.

http://www.webmd.com/food-recipes/features/the-best-healthy-snacks-in-your-supermarket?page=4

 

Brandi Giles, Editor of Health & Beauty

Letter From The Editor

Readers,

I’ve always wanted to know: what’s up with all of this “IDGAF” nonsense? Yes, I meant to say nonsense because it’s literally impossible to not GAF about something. Furthermore, the main people shouting “IDGAF!” are the main ones who actually do GAF about whatever it is they’re (supposedly) not giving F’s about.

I wanted to let you all know that it is okay to GAF. For example, if someone hurts you, don’t deny the feeling of being scorned and don’t mask it with “IDGAF.” Acknowledge the fact that it happened and start healing. Otherwise, your feelings will build up and you may unleash your anger on someone who had nothing to do with you being hurt. I mean, think of a can of soda. If someone keeps shaking it and shaking it non stop, pressure builds up. Once he/she opens the can, the soda will spray on whoever is around. Ironically enough, the person who shook the can doesn’t get sprayed at all. To put it in perspective: you are the soda can, the soda is your emotions, and the person shaking the can is the one who hurt you.

So the next time you get ready to scream “IDGAF!”, take a moment to ask yourself: “Do I really GAF?” If you do, cool. Deal with the matter at hand. If you don’t, that’s cool too. But word to the wise: those who are apathetic don’t even care to comment.

Exclusively yours,

Raena S.