There are billions of men and women in the world. When you turn on the TV, go online, read a magazine or even go to mall you see dozens of attractive people that catch your eye whom momentarily have you in a daze. Attraction is a normal thing, even when you are with someone, you may still be attracted to others. Do not lie and say that you have eyes only for your man or your woman. If Beyonce came on TV many guys would argue that she is his future wife and the same goes for girls with Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson. It is a part of life as a human being. But a problem falls into play when that attraction you have for another, forms into actual feelings.
There are plenty of individuals who have been placed in the predicament that requires them to choose between two or more individuals. They become emotionally and physically attracted to two or more people and now you have to decide who you are going to give your all too. Which one do you chose? Who is the right choice? Who would make me happy? No one can give you the answer to these questions besides you. You can ask you friends and family for advice, but at the end of the day there will only be one who can determine who you give your all to and that person is you. Deciding can be very difficult, especially if all parties involved share the same characteristic that makes you attractive to them. They both make you laugh; they both are respectful of who you are and what you represent. No one said that it would be easy. You just have to step back and look at the situation and think to yourself. If you are at the age where you are in the beginning stages of finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with then ask yourself questions such as, could they be the one I cry to when I fall, twenty years from now, could I actually imagine them not being in my life, can I trust them, could they be the parent to our kids that they need to be? The list goes on. If you are just looking for a relationship right then and there then more suitable questions for you would be, are they worth my spare time, is there real emotion here or is it just physical? Again the list continues. You have to find your other half no else can do it for you.
Do not choose one simply believing that the others will be there in case this one does not work out. Many people do not wait forever for one person. They move on.
There is also the possibility that none of your options in front of you are the correct choice. Again you need to step back from the situation and look at the situation with a clear mind. If in the end either option can bring you down versus lifting you up then you need to let all parties involved go and start anew. Do not settle because you are afraid that you may never find someone else willing to deal with you. There are billions of people in the world who you could possibly be attracted to, and billions more who would be attracted to you. Where are they? They are everywhere; just stop looking and you’ll soon find them. It is like a fire fly in the night. The moment you see one you do everything in your power to catch it but once you start to focus on the one he begins to disappear and then you’ll be roaming around trying to find it. And all they while you are looking for that one, you fail to realize the dozen that are shinning right behind you. Pause, close your eyes, breath and wait. You one will come. You are royalty and deserve nothing less than silver and gold.
Below are a few tips that could help you in reaching a decision.
Reasons not to choose someone:
– Because of money/ material things
– Because they are the “cutest”
– Because they have the best physical features
– Because you like their family
– You repeatedly argue
– Lack of trust
– Because you share the same interest (a good friend may not make the best partner but this could be a positive of negative thing)
– Because your family likes them
– Because your friends/family say they are the best choice ( do not completely ignore their input)
Do not just keep them all hanging on because you like the attention
Reasons to choose someone:
– Have ambitions
– You smile just by thinking about them
– You feel secure in their arms
– Can talk about anything
– Make each other laugh
– Cares for others, especially you
Tabia Wade, Editor of Love and Relationships