Pull Down The Wall

One brick at a time is how it was made.
I built my own hell and all the pain it gave.
One brick at a time, to torment myself
all the insecurities can’t be good for my health.
One brick at a time I was buried alive!
Would it send me crazy? Would I ever survive?
One brick at a time I built my own hell
can I knock it down? Or give my soul to sell?
One brick at a time it comes crashing down!!!
I built my own hell
NOW I’M PULLING IT DOWN!!!!

-Tayjsha Tarrant

Whether we like it or not, the way we think about ourselves plays a huge role in our day to day lives.

People with low self-esteem may find the smallest of issues to be frighteningly overwhelming.

No one should have to feel as though they are not good enough; these thoughts can send a person into further depression and even lead to suicide.

I cannot stress enough, how important it is to have someone you can talk to.

So how do you boost yourself up when you’re feeling down?

Poetry can be an amazing outlet. The poem above is one I wrote myself when I was feeling low one day. You can put in all your emotions and it doesn’t even matter if it makes sense. I find reading previously written poems can help to look back and relate to issues in a more positive way.

You can see how you felt at the time and reflect on how that may or may not be different now, whether or not you still feel the same isn’t the important part though, learning to deal with our emotion and to express yourself gives you a freedom that may be just what you needed to lift yourself up.

If you would like any support or advice please feel free to email me at

tayjsha-advicecolumn.everythingexclusivemag@hotmail.com

Thank you

And remember you are all beautiful!

Video: “Floatin’ Pt. II” – Will Hill

Just in time for 4/20, Chicago native Will Hill drops the visuals for his latest track “Floatin’ Pt. II.” With the video featuring many members of the Georgia State Community, the single is a part of Hill’s latest mixtape release, RAMADAN, which is available for download here. Also make sure to read up on his interview with Everything Exclusive writer Asia Breaux in our most recent posts.

Music Video: “Fortified MC” – J. Nolan

Fortified MCAs one of our spotlighted artists in our March Madness segment, Atlanta rapper J. Nolan is back with the newest video to his single “Fortified MC”. This song will appear on the artist’s forthcoming album Distinction, set to drop sometime in the late Spring. To read up on Nolan’s career and check out the rest of his music, make sure to read up on his previously posted Spotlight Post. In the meantime, make sure to head over to Nolan’s Soundcloud to download his single.

She Told You What? 5 Things your Friend Shouldn’t mention About Their Man (or Vice Versa)

Imagine you and your girlfriends at your local round table on a Friday night, talking about everything from politics to love and sex. Without even thinking twice, your girl spills the beans specifics about how good (or bad) her man is in the sack. The rest of you try not to make eye contact, but you’re all thinking the same thing: Why’d she tell us that? *Eyebrow raise*

When you’re part of a dynamic circle of friends, it feels natural to tell them everything, especially when it comes to your man. There’s nothing like feeling comfortable with friends you love and they love you back. Besides, a little girl talk never harmed anyone, right?

My friends and I share all types of things with each other: our dreams, future wedding plans, families, finances, “baby daddies”, school, etc. The best part about spilling the teas is that we’re each other’s confidante and are constantly in the “No Judgment Zone”! Still, there are some things we keep to ourselves, and specifics on sex are one of them. Not because we don’t trust each other, but because some things are just off limits. (And I’d prefer not to picture my girls doing only God knows…or vice versa. *Chuckle*)

Women are naturally more talkative than men. And emotion usually comes with all that extra talking. A slip here and there is fine. Minor details won’t hurt either. But regardless of how close you and the crew are, no one needs to know the angle of his curve or how he mounts up.

The next time you’re about to tell too much, imagine if you’d be cool with his guy friends knowing where your birthmarks are and if your nick name is Becky! Just got real, didn’t it? Keep this list of don’t tells in mind pre round table Friday night.

  1. Nicknames. His real name is Jamal. But after your girl told you how serious he is about sex aliases, you can’t help but want to call him Daddy Dollaz or Mr. Strong! To spare those shake-your-head moments, warn your girl that you’re not interested in knowing what he likes to be called (or what she likes to be called).
  2. Domination/Fetish. By day, your girl’s man is an aspiring Math teacher. Now, you know by night, his weird foot fetish and like for whips and chains consume all her time. There’s nothing he can say to make you look at him the same. The worst part is he doesn’t even know it!
  3. Past Chicks. When it comes to your girl telling you about who her guy last slept with, tell her the only important ones are actual ex-girlfriends. Knowing about his side pieces is unflattering and disgusting if there are several.
  4. Places of Action. There’s nothing wrong with spontaneity every now and then. It’s the spice that keeps relationships alive. If your girl and her current guy tend to jack rabbit all over town, ask her to spare how many locations she gives you, to spare you altogether or wait a few years to lessen the impact. If done otherwise, you’ll never look at a Wal-Mart or Books a Million the same again.
  5. Love songs. Imagine you all are cruising down the highway, headed to your next girl’s road trip destination and Beyoncé’s Bow Down (a non “sex me” type song anyway) blasts through the speakers. Everyone’s bouncing and dancing to that part about little girls wanting “the life” when all of a sudden home girl kills the vibe about “that time” when they did this and that to this part. Like #4, there’s nothing wrong with this; sex music is wonderful. Just understand that you may never listen to the song, or the artist, the same!

Written by Ariel Williams

@ArielSaysNow

Sparked

Ever get so angry you feel like you could explode? Anger is a natural emotion, ranging from slight annoyance to intense rage. Anger is usually linked to other negative emotions such as rejection, loneliness, pain, grief even embarrassment. While it is normal to get angry and express that anger, excessive anger can take a toll on relationships, work and have an effect on overall life quality.

Anger becomes an issue when it starts to affect your day-to-day living. Anger is also a problem when other people become frightened, hurt or feel they cannot communicate with someone in case they become angry. Some signs that anger is a problem are outlined here.

  • Anger involves verbal, emotional, physical or psychological abuse.
  • Feel angry a lot of the time.
  • People close by are worried about your anger.
  • Anger is leading to problems with personal relationships and work.
  • You think you have to get angry to get what you want.
  • Anger seems to get bigger than the event that set it off.
  • Anger lasts for a long time, and well after the triggering event has passed.
  • Anger affects other situations not related to the original event.
  • You are becoming anxious or depressed about your anger.
  • You are using alcohol or other drugs to try to manage your anger.
  • You are getting angry with the people who are closest to you, or with people who are less powerful than you, rather than dealing with the situation that sparked off your anger in the first place.

It is always important to have someone you trust that you can talk to about things that can trigger your anger. If you know someone who is having anger issues, chances are it goes deeper than that. Try to talk to them; put yourself in their shoes, a little understanding goes a long way.

If you feel it is becoming too overwhelming, talk to your doctor. They are there to help your through these things and can link you in with counselling to provide calming techniques.

Remember, before you snap, do you need to react?

The world can be a beautiful place, if you’ll only just open your eyes and look J

If you need support or to have someone listen email me at

tayjsha-advicecolumn.everythingexclusivemag@hotmail.com

How to Throw a Successful Make-Up Party

Tired of doing the same old things with your friends?  Are parties getting old?  Looking for something different to do?  Well, here’s an idea.  Remember doing makeovers with your friends back when you were young?  A great way to revamp those makeover parties in a more mature way is to throw a make-up party!  Getting dolled up with your friends is a great way to relax and learn new make-up tips.  You can invite a make-up artist to do you and your friends’ make-up or you can do each other’s’ make-up.  Either way you’re in for a good time.

First you and your friends will need to gather all of your make-up.  Purchase a bag of disposable applicators and brush cleaner so your tools can stay clean.  Sharing brushes with friends is not a good idea; bacteria and germs can be spread and you do not want things like that on your skin or near your eyes.

Next, you will need food.  Nothing greasy like pizza; just light refreshments.  You can make little finger sandwiches or pigs in a blanket.  Add some fruit on the side as well.  For drinks, you will need some fruit juice and also get a bottle of sparkling cider.  Pick your favorite Pandora station and let some music play from your laptop.

The rest is up to you.  If you have a make-up artist coming, she will handle the makeovers.  If not, you can still have so much fun, if not more.  You can try out different looks you see in magazines or try to follow YouTube tutorials together.  Even if it doesn’t come out perfect, you will have fun making mistakes.  Enjoy the trial and error!

Look to the internet to find out more about throwing make-up parties for a larger crowd.

Brandi Giles, Editor of Health & Beauty

Goodbye College, Hello World!

It’s spring and we all know what that means. It is time for the biggest moment in a college student’s life, spring graduation! After taking numerous courses and spending countless hours trying to prepare for this moment, it is finally within your reach.

9757abfa49f611e2914322000a1f984e_7Happy is an understatement for how undergraduates who are preparing to make this step are currently feeling. However, this time can also be scary for many who either have no plans upon graduation or even those who may simply be afraid of what the real world has in store. It is a major step from being dependent to becoming an independent adult.

Quite often college students get consumed in the lifestyle of always having something to fall back on that they tend to forget that in the adult world it is not always that easy. It is always important to have a plan set for after graduation. Even if your plan changes throughout the course of college, at least you have options. Do not be the student that is not excited about graduation because they do not know what is next.

So, let this time be a wonderful experience for you. If you are not yet graduating and do not a plan, get started now. Make your graduation day the best day of your life!

Michaela C., Editor of College Life

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