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Life: 7 Things To Remember

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Such a precious gift, but it is often taken for granted. Or taken too seriously. Or is treated with apathy.  While things won’t always be sunshine and rainbows, it’s important to note that life can be enjoyable, and it all starts with how you approach it.

Here are 7 things to remember about life:

1.) The day you’re born is the only time when you’ll be “perfect.”

Nothing is more true than this! When you’re born, everything is pure: your mind, your body, your spirit, your soul. But in the days to follow, your environment will change that. Fact is, you won’t make it through life unscathed. You’ll get sick, you’ll lose people, you’ll be hurt physically, mentally and emotionally. But you know what? You’ll pick yourself back up and keep going. Everyone does it. And you’ll keep doing it over and over again.

2.) The things you worry most about may never happen.

So stop obsessing over a grand piano that may never fall out of the sky and on top of your head. A shark won’t eat you while you’re swimming in an ocean. You won’t flunk out of college. You won’t accidentally eat a poisonous berry. You don’t have ebola, and for the record, you may never get ebola. Oh, yeah: your car won’t break down in the middle of nowhere, either. And if it does, you’ll be fine.

Relax.

3.) It’s bigger than social media.

I’m not one to record my whole life on social media anyway, but you’ll drive yourself crazy “competing” with your friends to see who is having the most fun, or who has more adventures, or who has more popularity. That stuff doesn’t even matter, and all of these social sites will eventually become obsolete, just like MySpace.

4.) It’s not a competition.

Again, comparing yourself to others will drive you crazy. Everyone’s journey is different, and no one has a clue what the other person’s is about. At the end of the day, the only person you need to compete with is yourself. Yes, out-do yourself each and every day. Progress: be better, do better, act better and love better than you did the day before. Beat your old self.

5.) It’s relatively short.

Don’t waste time on trivial bullshit; it’s not worth it. At odds with someone? Fix that shit. Got something on your chest? Get it off. Have a long-term goal? Keep working until you reach it. Furthermore, forgive yourself for all of your faults, slip-ups and mishaps. What’s the point in regretting stuff when you still have more experiences coming your way? Plus, you’ll miss out on so many memories holding on to useless baggage. Let it go, because before you know it, your time will be up. Then you’ll really have something to regret.

6.) Love makes the world go ’round.

Not cash. Not men. Not women. It’s love that makes everything continue to grow, evolve and recreate. Love is what inspires; from love sprouts positivity and it feels good to live in an optimistic world, right? Even if THE world is full of strife and turmoil, make YOUR world a loving safe haven, and come up with ways to solve the problems you see around you. Keep the good karma going, and you’ll enjoy your life. I promise you.

7.) Life is what you make it.

Nuff said. 

So enjoy life as it is. You have a special, unique journey that is designed specifically for you, and you might as well enjoy it while you can!

Have a good one, y’all.

Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

I know we’ve all heard this saying before and I’m sure you’re all tired of hearing it, but I just wanted to write a little something to give hope and reassurance to those that may be going through a long distance relationship.  I know from experience that absence really can make the heart grow fonder.  I grew up with my mom constantly going out of the country for work for months at a time and saw my parents’ relationship actually IMPROVE from it.  They fought less, they missed each other more, and their patience improved.  It made them both appreciate each other’s love more and learn the importance of what the other had to say and felt.

So for those of you doubting whether or not it can work between you and your significant other, just know that yes it will get frustrating and you may feel lonely at times, but you also will gain such a deeper appreciation for the other person.  Simple things like the sound of their voice or holding hands will seem like the best things in the world.  Here are a few tips to keep the love alive and the relationship strong:

  1. Have a mutual understanding of what you both want.  Reassuring one another that you have the same amount of love, care about each other equally, and are putting forth the same effort to make the relationship work will really enhance any relationship; especially a long distance one.  Feeling secure and knowing that you are both on the same page is extremely important.
  2. Don’t OVER communicate.  I know you’re probably thinking, “What is this girl talking about?!”, but seriously sometimes less is more.  Just because you don’t see each other doesn’t mean you need to compensate that by talking 24/7.  It will do more harm than good.  Just like when you see someone too often and can start to get super annoyed by their presence, the same goes for if you talk to someone too much.  You may think it is helping, but it is actually hurting the relationship.  Give yourselves a chance to miss each other.
  3. Keep the sexual attraction strong.  Don’t let the spark die or forget what it feels like to kiss and hold each other.  Set a night aside each week for you two to say how much you miss each other in both an emotional and physical way. Flirt a little!
  4. Communicate regularly.  You want to make sure you don’t NOT talk to each other.  Seeing a “good morning” and “good night” text lets the other know they are thinking about them and want to make the effort.  Sending photos is also a good way to remind your lover that you are trying to include them in your life.
  5. Be honest.  Trust will always be one of the most important things to have in order for a relationship to work.  Being in a long distance relationship makes it that much more valuable.  Once you lose trust, the relationship will have a hard time recovering, if it will at all.

I hope these tips help any of you going through a long-distance relationship.  Whether it’s just for a month, 5 months, or for up to a year or more, these should help you maintain a strong trusting relationship.

Things To Do: The First Five Days of August In Atlanta

August 1st – World Tiger Day

Head on over to Zoo Atlanta to celebrate all things tiger!  Learn all about the rarest tiger species in the world, the Sumatran tiger.

When: 11:30 am – 3:30 pm

Enjoy a tiger training demonstration at 2:00 pm!

August 2nd – 2015 Coca-Cola Summer Film Festival

Where: Fox Theatre

When: 1:00 pm

“Come celebrate 40 years of Fabulous Films!”

August 3rd – Kids Eat Free at the Georgia Aquarium

Valid through August 13th, kids eat free with a purchase of a $29.95 ticket and adult meal!

August 4th – National Night Out

When: 6:30 – 8:00 pm

Enjoy a block party filled with food trucks and music in Downtown Atlanta.  The block party is hosted by the Neighborhood Planning Unit (NPU).

Visit their website for more information: https://www.facebook.com/events/1485797175046210/

August 5th – Clean Power for Georgia Celebration

#CleanPowerforGA

When: 12:00 – 1:30 pm

Where: Georgia State Capitol – Liberty Plaza, Corner of Capitol Ave & M.L.K. Jr. Drive

Show your support for a cleaner Atlanta!  The Environmental Protection Agency’s Clean Power Plan will create cleaner air, cleaner water, and more jobs for Georgian’s!

Being a Student-Athlete: What To Expect

“BURRR! BURRR! BURRR! BURRR!”  It’s 5:00 A.M. and you reach for your phone to turn the most annoying alarm clock tone you could find off.  After literally rolling out of bed you pull your sweats and t-shirt on, brush your teeth, grab a granola bar and run out of your dorm to your 6 A.M. practice, which you have to be 30 minutes early to because “If you’re early you’re on time.  If you’re on time you’re late.”

For those of you that don’t recognize this absurdity, this is what the average college athlete’s preseason looks like.  For two weeks you wake up to that alarm, eat that granola bar, and run your tail off trying to get in shape for the season.  This is all before attending a few classes, then an afternoon practice, then more classes, then night practice.  That’s right… practice three times a week, for two weeks, every August, for four years.

This is usually the make-or-break moment for students; when they find out if it’s just too much for them or not.  For the ones that do make it through those first two weeks, there is some good news: it gets better!  Those morning practices will lessen until eventually you will just have one practice every day, along with two or three games a week.

Being an athlete and a student really can be a difficult experience.  You REALLY have to know how to manage your time and make sure to get all your homework done in between all of the running around.  However, from experience I know that it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences.

You will get stressed, you will feel overwhelmed, and you will want to quit.  You may find yourself wondering why you didn’t take the easier route, but after that first month you realize why it’s all worth it.

Below are a list of things that I learned and gained from my experience as a student-athlete:

  1. You learn how to be passionate.  There’s something to be said about someone who chooses to commit to a sport in college, especially when you aren’t getting a scholarship to play.  This dedication will flow into your life later on and then no matter what your dreams are you will go after them.  Someone who is passionate about something can go a long way.
  2. Time-management.  I learned that this is one of the most important things to implement while being a student-athlete.  You’ll want to hang out with friends, make new friends, go on adventures, and maintain a 3.0 GPA or higher, all while still wanting to kick ass in your sport.  It can be tough, but if you’re able to manage your time efficiently and prioritize then you’ll do just fine.  By my second year I really understood what it meant to manage my time and now I’m almost a pro. ALMOST.
  3. Patience.  You’ll never be alone.  Every single day you will be with the same group of people.  Sometimes you will get tired of them, sometimes you will fight in the locker room, either way you have to find a way to get along with one another.  If not for each other, for the team.  I witnessed so many of my teammates go at each others throats (figuratively) over silly arguments or gossip, but then after a couple of days get over it and become best friends again.  When you’re stuck with people you pretty much learn how to live with each other.  For better or for worse.
  4. Your body needs you.  I never realized how important exercise and 10622731_10154620221665790_7717786854986258412_nwhat I eat and drink were until playing soccer in college.  If you don’t stretch enough you’ll tear something, if you stretch too much you’ll tear something, if you eat too little you’ll wear your body out, and if you drink a little too much you’ll feel like a slug the next day at practice.  (No, I’m not talking about drinking water..)  It’s all about balancing what you eat and how much you exercise.
  5. You will have a home away from home.  Being a part of a college team allowed me to make friends that I will have for life.  We all endured the same early practices, injuries, and “tough love” from our coach.  We became a family.  If you saw one of us in the cafeteria, you saw all of us.

I could literally write a book about what it’s like to be a student-athlete, but for now I hope this gave you enough insight.  Just remember: it’s a strange, stressful, crazy, but amazing experience that you will grow so much from.  (Not to mention, getting up for work in the “real world” will seem like a piece of cake!)

Put the phone down

Ever want to hang out with your friends, but you have that one friend that wants to Snapchat EVERYTHING. Let’s be real sometimes we are that one friend; I’ll admit I’m guilty of that sometimes too. So I was having lunch with one of my friends a while back and, I see this couple on a date but I couldn’t help but notice that they were more engaged with their phones than with each other.

And it got me to thinking how much technology is taking over our lives. Like we have first grades using Ipads and tablets and third and four graders getting Iphones. All I can say is woww when I was that age I was outside running around not sitting on my phone or computer. Whatever happened to going out to lunch and not sitting on your phone or you and the family going for walks outside rather than having family time but yet you’re all engaged on your phones.

There’s more to life than getting the likes on Facebook and Instagram or having all your followers see your Snapchat story. Give people some mystery about you, not everything about your life has to be put out there keep some things private. If you can’t honestly say some of your best moments were not captured by Snapchat then that’s sad honestly. You should be able to have just as much fun with your family and friends without having all these devices. If all the phones and devices were taken away how many of your friends can you consider close and call over and do nothing but still have fun.

Let that sink that in for a minute… until next time friends