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Going Back to College : The Struggle of Slow Schools

Yes it’s almost that time of the month going back to college and your probably struggling trying to find out where your going to get your keys and how your going to move in. Trust me I’m in the same boat as you it’s Wednesday and I leave Monday to go back to school and I still don’t know the moving in processes once again and I’m a Junior, and you think that schools by now would have a game plan and that it wouldn’t take them so long to give it to the returning students. But no not HBCU school which I don’t understand because they know all this a month or two earlier so why does it take them so long for them to get to the student. Plane tickets been purchased month in advanced and we’ve already communicated with you when the student is coming in and you still don’t have are information this doesn’t make no sense at all. Their no way to avoid the struggle of slow HBCU Schools this how the game goes with them when you go to these’s type of schools you get the best experiences going to an HBCU School but the hassle and the struggle of getting any type of information about anything will take forever. So my key to this situation is to be patient and call them to make sure that  you get your information for what you need even look on the website if you have to, but the best thing to do is call them so you can talk to a live person about any questions you might have. Have a good Back to School all you returning College Students

Back To School Looks

I need of some unique looks for your back-to-school look?  I’ve found some ADORABLE things online recently that I just had to share!

  1. This Elephant Backpack – http://www.landofnod.com – Only $29.00!

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2. This Black Fringe Coldshoulder Tee – Find it at http://www.loveculture.com – Only $19.95!

If you’re looking for something different and trendy, try fringe!  I love this piece because you can never go wrong with a coldshoulder shirt.  Plus, it’s super lightweight so it won’t be too hot for this muggy August weather!

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3. Look ultra slimming in high-waisted pants, shorts, and skirts!

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4. They’re lowering the heels for us, ladies!  All over the runways they had these loafer-type heels.  They’re lower, more comfortable, and have a bigger heel so we aren’t QUITE as wobbly.

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I’ll keep my eye out for more trendy looks to make you stand out, while being up-to-date on everything chic!

Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

I know we’ve all heard this saying before and I’m sure you’re all tired of hearing it, but I just wanted to write a little something to give hope and reassurance to those that may be going through a long distance relationship.  I know from experience that absence really can make the heart grow fonder.  I grew up with my mom constantly going out of the country for work for months at a time and saw my parents’ relationship actually IMPROVE from it.  They fought less, they missed each other more, and their patience improved.  It made them both appreciate each other’s love more and learn the importance of what the other had to say and felt.

So for those of you doubting whether or not it can work between you and your significant other, just know that yes it will get frustrating and you may feel lonely at times, but you also will gain such a deeper appreciation for the other person.  Simple things like the sound of their voice or holding hands will seem like the best things in the world.  Here are a few tips to keep the love alive and the relationship strong:

  1. Have a mutual understanding of what you both want.  Reassuring one another that you have the same amount of love, care about each other equally, and are putting forth the same effort to make the relationship work will really enhance any relationship; especially a long distance one.  Feeling secure and knowing that you are both on the same page is extremely important.
  2. Don’t OVER communicate.  I know you’re probably thinking, “What is this girl talking about?!”, but seriously sometimes less is more.  Just because you don’t see each other doesn’t mean you need to compensate that by talking 24/7.  It will do more harm than good.  Just like when you see someone too often and can start to get super annoyed by their presence, the same goes for if you talk to someone too much.  You may think it is helping, but it is actually hurting the relationship.  Give yourselves a chance to miss each other.
  3. Keep the sexual attraction strong.  Don’t let the spark die or forget what it feels like to kiss and hold each other.  Set a night aside each week for you two to say how much you miss each other in both an emotional and physical way. Flirt a little!
  4. Communicate regularly.  You want to make sure you don’t NOT talk to each other.  Seeing a “good morning” and “good night” text lets the other know they are thinking about them and want to make the effort.  Sending photos is also a good way to remind your lover that you are trying to include them in your life.
  5. Be honest.  Trust will always be one of the most important things to have in order for a relationship to work.  Being in a long distance relationship makes it that much more valuable.  Once you lose trust, the relationship will have a hard time recovering, if it will at all.

I hope these tips help any of you going through a long-distance relationship.  Whether it’s just for a month, 5 months, or for up to a year or more, these should help you maintain a strong trusting relationship.

Climbing: A Rising Sport in Georgia

Need an adrenaline rushing hobby that works both mind and body?  Climbing may be the sport for you.  With over hundreds of rock climbing gyms in the United States, the sport of climbing has taken off.  I myself first began climbing on Currahee Mountain, a northeast Georgia mountain located in Toccoa.  It was such a thrill topping my first climb and looking down to see how far I had come.

For lovers of climbing, indoor gyms were like a dream come true. Now we can climb every season of the year without freezing our butts off or scorching our hands.  I look around now and have seen so many indoor gyms pop up around Georgia. Everyone that I’ve introduced climbing to have loved it and continue to do it.  It’s a such mental and physical workout.  You’re having to plan each move strategically, while working muscles you never even knew you had.

I was so thrilled to hear that my college was building a climbing gym in our new student center.  With so many student-athletes at my college it will give them all a fun new way of working out.  For those of you who have never climbed before, get out there and give it a try!  I promise you won’t regret it.  And as long as you have an experienced climber with you who knows how to belay, trust me, you won’t fall!  Those of you who are natives to the climbing gyms, give a couple mountains a try!  It’s a totally different feel, but in a totally good way!

Your Guide to Urban Exploration

Need something new and different to do on the weekends but don’t want to spend too much money?  May I suggest a little urban exploration.  There’s something about venturing into the unknown and finding abandoned buildings with a group of friends.

Some go to get a thrill, some go to find cool things, and others are interested in finding the beauty of what is no longer what it used to be.  I’ve bee10999330_1578834969000245_7254843446423434545_on on many excursions to old abandoned buildings – some at night, some during the day.  Usually the ones at night were intended for us to get a little adrenaline pumping instead of sitting bored in our dorms all day.  We would walk through, holding hands, heart pumping, always hoping that we’ll get spooked, but not TOO spooked.  No one wants to ACTUALLY pee themselves.

Day time adventures are my personal favorite because I can take pictures and actually see the building in natural lighting.  Although the buildings are losing their old looks, they’re gaining new characteristics such as vines and erosion that give them a unique, beautiful look.  There’s a rich history to be accounted for once you really take a look at them.  Each place has a story to tell.

So whether you’re looking for a little midnight scare or a spot to set your camera up, get out of your dorm get in your car, and drive.  Here are a few tips to help you on your next adventure.

  1. Do your research.  The worst feeling is to hear that there is some awesome building at a specific location, which you drive all the way to, only to find that your information was out-of-date and now that building has been replaced by a Wendy’s.  So before loading up your car hop on your computer to make sure 1782510_1578834979000244_5883589651323414437_oyou’re not about to load up on carbs by consuming fries and burgers rather than feasting your eyes on some awesome urban decay.
  2. Don’t get locked up.  Be careful.  No building is worth getting locked up for.
  3. This tip is for those seeking a midnight scare.  Make sure to bring a solid group of friends.  Have a couple of guys (not just ones that act tough, but would scream like a girl at the sound of a creaking door) to put the more easily scared of the group at ease.
  4. My last piece of advice is to bring some type of weapon just in case something DOES happen.  Perhaps a bat or pepper spray to ward off potential monsters.  If there is a ghost, ask if its name is Casper.  If it says no, I have no advice.  Ghost Busters?

Best of luck!

Being a Student-Athlete: What To Expect

“BURRR! BURRR! BURRR! BURRR!”  It’s 5:00 A.M. and you reach for your phone to turn the most annoying alarm clock tone you could find off.  After literally rolling out of bed you pull your sweats and t-shirt on, brush your teeth, grab a granola bar and run out of your dorm to your 6 A.M. practice, which you have to be 30 minutes early to because “If you’re early you’re on time.  If you’re on time you’re late.”

For those of you that don’t recognize this absurdity, this is what the average college athlete’s preseason looks like.  For two weeks you wake up to that alarm, eat that granola bar, and run your tail off trying to get in shape for the season.  This is all before attending a few classes, then an afternoon practice, then more classes, then night practice.  That’s right… practice three times a week, for two weeks, every August, for four years.

This is usually the make-or-break moment for students; when they find out if it’s just too much for them or not.  For the ones that do make it through those first two weeks, there is some good news: it gets better!  Those morning practices will lessen until eventually you will just have one practice every day, along with two or three games a week.

Being an athlete and a student really can be a difficult experience.  You REALLY have to know how to manage your time and make sure to get all your homework done in between all of the running around.  However, from experience I know that it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences.

You will get stressed, you will feel overwhelmed, and you will want to quit.  You may find yourself wondering why you didn’t take the easier route, but after that first month you realize why it’s all worth it.

Below are a list of things that I learned and gained from my experience as a student-athlete:

  1. You learn how to be passionate.  There’s something to be said about someone who chooses to commit to a sport in college, especially when you aren’t getting a scholarship to play.  This dedication will flow into your life later on and then no matter what your dreams are you will go after them.  Someone who is passionate about something can go a long way.
  2. Time-management.  I learned that this is one of the most important things to implement while being a student-athlete.  You’ll want to hang out with friends, make new friends, go on adventures, and maintain a 3.0 GPA or higher, all while still wanting to kick ass in your sport.  It can be tough, but if you’re able to manage your time efficiently and prioritize then you’ll do just fine.  By my second year I really understood what it meant to manage my time and now I’m almost a pro. ALMOST.
  3. Patience.  You’ll never be alone.  Every single day you will be with the same group of people.  Sometimes you will get tired of them, sometimes you will fight in the locker room, either way you have to find a way to get along with one another.  If not for each other, for the team.  I witnessed so many of my teammates go at each others throats (figuratively) over silly arguments or gossip, but then after a couple of days get over it and become best friends again.  When you’re stuck with people you pretty much learn how to live with each other.  For better or for worse.
  4. Your body needs you.  I never realized how important exercise and 10622731_10154620221665790_7717786854986258412_nwhat I eat and drink were until playing soccer in college.  If you don’t stretch enough you’ll tear something, if you stretch too much you’ll tear something, if you eat too little you’ll wear your body out, and if you drink a little too much you’ll feel like a slug the next day at practice.  (No, I’m not talking about drinking water..)  It’s all about balancing what you eat and how much you exercise.
  5. You will have a home away from home.  Being a part of a college team allowed me to make friends that I will have for life.  We all endured the same early practices, injuries, and “tough love” from our coach.  We became a family.  If you saw one of us in the cafeteria, you saw all of us.

I could literally write a book about what it’s like to be a student-athlete, but for now I hope this gave you enough insight.  Just remember: it’s a strange, stressful, crazy, but amazing experience that you will grow so much from.  (Not to mention, getting up for work in the “real world” will seem like a piece of cake!)

Be Stingy With Your Cootie-Cat

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Sorry I had to use Joseline’s song, her being extremely out there with her sexuality, but it proves my point! In this generation there are more shotgun weddings, pre-marital babies, teen pregnancies, and STDs than perhaps ever before. Kids are having sex earlier and earlier and we should not be using forms of birth control for 12-year-olds. And I’m not just talking to the ladies, men too. We have got to stop this double standard that we have allowing our men to be loose but then cracking down on the ladies. When are we going to realize that it goes both ways and that there is not one more significant than the other. It starts with the parenting, but once we as young adults are released into the world, it is up to us from there.

As far as parenting, parents have to set the example. If a daughter sees her mother walking around in provocative clothing and being promiscuous and immature, she will emulate what she sees. If her father only dates woman who appears as though everyone has ran through her, they will think this is what men are attracted too. Sometimes situations consciously affect children once they become of age. For instance, if one of the parents cheats, divorces, constantly says ill things towards one another, is not present, walked out of their life, teaches them incorrectly, or simply doesn’t discipline, it shows in adulthood. This generation is spoiled with parents using the excuse that the child should have more than they do; that is the goal. But if the parent has everything, where does that leave the child? Do we see that eventually if we repeat the “I want my child to have what I never did” eventually the child will have everything? Everything to the point of being so spoiled that there’s nothing the child can’t have.They grow up without respect, morals, values, and good attitudes because mommy and daddy told them they could have the world. Parent have to talk to their kids about sex and be open. Do research and find ways to make it easier. It really sticks with us later. We also can’t over protect them because this causes rebellion so there is a balance. Allow them to make mistakes and learn from them. Let them fly and be there to guide them. Punish them appropriately when they are wrong. And yes, some children need to be spanked. Train a child in the way they should go. Set an example and don’t be an example of what no to do. The child needs to be raised with spiritual foundation whether that be church or whatever it is you believe in in order to reinforce right and wrong. These upcoming generations need guidance. Children can’t raise children and grandparents shouldn’t raise children for lazy parents. It’s a responsibility and we all suffer the consequences.

Now, once the parenting is done and we go out on our own, the rest is up to us. I’ve seen people who were raised in wonderful families with a great upbringing that still end up making stupid mistakes. Curiosity and peer pressure can make a good apple turn into a bad egg. For the beautiful ladies with a good family; everything that glitters is not gold. We cannot allow ourselves to be fooled by the persuasion of a man who wants nothing more from you but something he can get from any other girl. The rule that works for me is: if you can’t see yourself having a baby with him, don’t get in the bed. Just keep the consequences in mind before making a bad decision. Don’t hang out alone in the room with men, don’t give it up to any man with a pretty face and sweet talk, and don’t set yourself up for failure. A man will show you exactly who he is if you pay attention. Just because men do whorish things during this age doesn’t mean we have too and not all men do it. Don’t profile them miss out on good men. Get a title and fall in love before you consider you body. If a man will cheat to be with you he will do the same to you. There are so many ways to avoid the system. And for those who didn’t have the best upbringing, stop using that as an excuse. A parent that’s not present is not your crutch. You can change it! You can be better that that! You can look back and show off on how far you’ve come and make those you love and yourself proud. Also, gold digging is so dead. There’s always a price for money and even if you find a man who will buy you everything you could ever want, he will lack in so many other areas that it will leave a hole in your heart. You deal with the public, the criticism, and the child you realize that is going to be just like him. Men; it is not expected of you to be hoes so stop the foolery. You have the power to make the life you wish for and you choose to lay down with dogs? These girls will run you dry. Just think about sex as dropping a penny into a little bucket every time you do it. Once that bucket’s full, then what? Then you wanna marry? You’re blown out by that time and sex isn’t going to be special like it’s supposed to be. Let your crew make stupid decisions and suffer those consequences alone. Or better, stop hanging with discouraging friends. Having a record will not help you in your future and no man is complete without having success. You want girls and consequences or a fulfillng life and foundation? You choose.

This is not a post to bash sex. Even biblically sex is described as a gift from God. I only remind my readers to be in love with who you give your body too. Screw a 90 day rule. It’s when YOU are ready and there is no time limit on that. Whether it’s 6 months or until you’re married. There’s no addiction; it’s all in your head that you need it and can’t stop once you start. Many people regret who they give their first time to anyways. It’s OK to wait. It’s beautiful to wait. Be the unique one. Attract someone as unique as you and make magic. Share a moment with someone special who has proved your love and who you feel totally comfortable with; someone you can introduce to Mama and someone you’ll have longevity with. I refuse to go along with the 2015 trend of sex being normal and since everyone is doing it that means I’m weird if I decide not to sleep with whoever I want. It’s supposed to be about being in love and connecting and chemistry. Sex was created to end in the beauty of a child so keep that in mind. Make sure you’re getting checked, using proper birth control, and making smart and conscious decisions and no birth control is 100% effective.The child should enter world with two parents that love them and create the masculine a feminine balance in their life however this is done. Be stingy with your cootie-cat and men gate the snake.